Relationship Recovery Therapist • Enneagram Expert • Master of Human Relations • Mommy • Wifey • Homie
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My goal in life is to get help women change themselves to change their relationships.
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Meet the Stevensons
May 2012 | I met him at a cookout at his cousin’s (my friend’s) house.
Aug 2012 | We became Facebook official.
Dec 2012 | He surprised me and proposed at a retreat.
Feb 2013 | We had a lovely little shotgun wedding in downtown OKC. I was 5 months pregnant.
Jun 2013 | Our “Monkey Style” daughter, Lyric Mikelle, was born. (She has labeled everyone as animals. It’s a thing.)
Feb 2015 | Then the dramatic kid, Legend Ali, comes along with his fits, and compliments, and crazy high IQ.
Jul 2020 | Finally, the LAST one arrived. Logic Bryant. In a pandemic, with a rare heart condition, over the 99% in size, and as high maintenance as they come. They say he “defies all Logic.”
These are the fun highlights everyone loves to see.
What isn’t listed here is the most important part of our story. The drama, the devastation, moving out, moving back in, weeks of not speaking, and most of all, my belief that he was my problem. Never me!
Ladies and gentlemen, that is why we’re here today.
If it wasn’t for “our issues,” I would have gone on thinking I was good.
Never showing emotion, no idea what was/wasn’t my job, no concept of being responsible for my own happiness.
When I dug into me, everything changed.
We have been together longer than I have been a therapist. But oh boy, he was my first client.
Fixing him was going to change all of my problems.
This false belief nearly cost me either my marriage or my sanity.
And, if you don’t learn to take your power back, it will cost you yours, too.
SO, YEAH. I’M HILARY
I teach women how to love the right way.
You’ve already
✅read all the best-selling self-help books,
✅wiped your face,
✅listened to all the podcasts,
✅gone to marriage seminars,
✅frequented girl power coaching conferences,
✅talked to all of your married friends,
✅and you still haven’t heard the things I teach.
It’s not your fault.
Most of the tested, proven, results-based ways of enjoying your life still are not available to the public.
If these things work (spoiler alert - they do!), then ummm why don’t we all know about them?
This is what drives me.
Why I couldn’t stay hidden away in the therapy room.
The world needs this.
Why not just do counseling in a traditional setting?
Doing this work in a secret room, one at a time, wasn’t getting it done. So, I left my thriving private therapy practice to teach full-time. Having seen such massive results in such a short time,
I couldn’t sleep at night unless I was doing everything in my power to get these ideas out in the world! I even suspended my counseling license so there are no limits to the way I can work.
Now, instead of using my tools to help clients, I give them the tools. (Ya know… the whole teach a WOman to fish thing? )
Also, when I was working in the traditional counseling setting, clients would make huge progress, but the longer they were away, the more they slid back into old habits. What was needed was a way for them to have all the strategies themselves.
I’m so passionate about working this way, because now my students have lifetime access to these tools, a 24/7 online like-minded community, and new lives.
Not ready to join us yet? No problem.
Start reading here and then go to my instagram and let’s talk about it!
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