Overhelping

We toss around the word “codependent” without knowing what it really means. Codependency is simply “over-helping.” This can be active (“You need my expertise”) or passive (“I can’t say no”), but it all comes from the same place… and (no matter who you have fooled), it aint a good place.

I KNOW YOU THINK YOU’RE BEING NICE.

But when you give more than you have to give, it’s always uglier than it looks. There are always strings attached. Resentment is inevitable. Is it worth it if it makes you like him less? Who does that really help?

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