I won’t parent by tradition.

Tradition won’t be my parenting guidebook.

My parents did a great job.

But I refuse to accept the “way we have always done things” as the way to go about my most important job.

If I approached my other job like that, I wouldn’t have one.

- Why do we choose tradition over what actually works?
- Why are parenting techniques so taboo to even discuss?
- Why do we not think we can study and learn how to parent from experts?
- Why do we actively choose to do the things to our kids that we hated (and didn’t benefit from)?

Yup, my kid very well may be the one crying in the grocery store. He’s learning that boundaries exist. And the “punishment” isn’t mad, scary, mean mommy. The punishment is no candy. Shiiiii… that would make me sad too.

Uh huh, my kid is allowed (by me) to stomp and yell and scream and cry in her room. Because emotions aren’t bad. Because I get paid to teach grown@$$ adults that emotions are your body’s way of prioritizing information and need to be expressed (…and because clearly she already has “something to cry about”).

Nope, you won’t see me lecture my kid when he finally comes out his room. He’s actually not an idiot. He can connect the dots. If he chooses not to do it again, it will be because it didn’t go well for him. And he can still like me.

If mean, mad, unloving mommy is the punishment, my kids (because they are smart) are learning to not get caught, that I’m the enemy, and that all of these go away at 18.

You do you, but Imma be over here raising them to be adults, not obedient lost kids.

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